tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7589973603624712149.post3493740231573533696..comments2023-05-25T10:28:16.170-04:00Comments on THE FRONT PORCH: FridayNeomahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07483213915316279993noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7589973603624712149.post-90492818327816514172008-07-26T12:12:00.000-04:002008-07-26T12:12:00.000-04:00Nea ~ It may be too late to change your Mum, but I...Nea ~ It may be too late to change your Mum, but I know deep in her heart she loves you. And I am sure you are showing your children all the love they want.Bill ~ {The Old Fart}https://www.blogger.com/profile/14257411366459797653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7589973603624712149.post-12917765895738760452008-07-25T22:05:00.000-04:002008-07-25T22:05:00.000-04:00I know that a lot of the problems that I have had ...I know that a lot of the problems that I have had in my life with relationships has been my crazy upbringing, but do I blame my parents.....No, I guess I don't really. They were a product of the way they were brought up. Mom would have liked to have been different, we have had talks about it, now that she is older, and she has told me that she is sorry that she couldn't have been more affectionate, she wanted to be she just couldn't it embarrassed her to much. It is like making a phone call, I have watched her agonize over picking up the phone to call someone, and finally she just gives up. It is a matter of confidence, being confindent enough that the person on the receiving end will respond supportively. Imagine going to someone and trying to hug them and having them shrug you off. Mom says she remembers Uncle Dave trying to give Grandma (his Mom a hug) when he was five, and her reactions, he never did it again.<BR/><BR/>It makes it hard for us to be the initiator.<BR/><BR/>And yes, when you find someone who actually wants your affection, well you make some bad mistakes at times.......just out of sheer need.Neomahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07483213915316279993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7589973603624712149.post-10621934824956314632008-07-25T19:42:00.000-04:002008-07-25T19:42:00.000-04:00OC is used to there being "rules" for affection --...OC is used to there being "rules" for affection -- certain times when hugs, kisses and cuddles are allowed, and certain times when they are not. Affection has been doled out in such short supply in his life that he is like a sponge now. He absorbs affection like thirsty plants soak up water.<BR/><BR/>I have seen this -- teaching school -- time and time again in children. Often young girls who lack physical nurturing in childhood, end up making horrendous mistakes with the first male that shows them any hint of affection.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com