It comes gradually until it begins to come more suddenly. One day you can walk and the next your knees, your back, your hands all hurt at the same time and you feel rather useless. That is what is now happening to me. No one wants to hear it, it scares them I guess. Your kids think you shall live forever, sometimes they are even glad about that. Other times you wonder. lol
I have five children, they are scattered "to the wind." Times change, people change, mid life crisis happens, we change, we evolve, we often forget what is really important. I miss my family, I miss my life with my family. Everything is so different now, I do not hear from them as much as I would like, but then I do not make phone calls. It is only texting, and I do not think I am at the top of their texting list. It is my own fault. I tried to raise my children to be independent, and they are. So much so I think they often forget they have a Mother. My last birthday Scott did the most wonderful thing, he got his brothers all together, here in Georgia, for my Birthday. Everyone was here except my daughter. It was a wonderful day and I am so glad it happened. It shall have to carry me through hard times now.......
What an older person has to get used to is loss. And how does one do that? I lost my husband, and I don't think I shall ever "get over that" as my cousin likes to reminds me, I should be by over it my now. Not long after that, I lost Mr. Purdy. He was our sweet, very much loved kitty. Pets are important to our lives. Without them a person feels something is missing, and it is. I lost my Mom too, I suppose my chronological memory is slipping, she passed away before Tom, but it is ever with me also. Sometimes it feels like yesterday. There is a feeling you have when your parents die, you are losing your past. They are the people who love you unconditionally, the ones you can talk to about nothing for hours. I miss my Mom and always will, we had so much that needed to be said and never was..... Like, I love you. Then Bitzy boy died, my heart kitty, I had him since a kitten, he was a very sick kitten and I kept him in my bra next to my breasts for warmth he was so tiny then. He lived and grew to be the biggest of the bunch, the only male out of six kittens. He died so suddenly from a heart condition. I knew something was wrong, he had that same nagging cough that took Tom, I wonder if cats get CHF too? And then most recently Pat dies. She has been my neighbor and my only close friend here in Georgia, I am an introvert, which means I do not need to see someone every day, but I need to know they are there so I CAN see them. The loss of her dying weighs very heavily on me. I too will be at that age in a few years. Will Nick take care of me like Jim took care of Pat, I sure hope so. Or life is going to be very difficult for me. Scott says I can come and be there with him, but I am independent, not like his Dad who lived with him until he passed away. And I am a woman, we need OUR OWN HOMES. Very hard for a woman to lose her home. I do not think I am a very adaptable person.
I look at my future and not very fond of what I see.
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